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June 24 2005

"She's gone." Who does not ever experience something like this - raise your hands. Do as little ... Now put your hands up those who are in such moments he endured joy. No one. That's right, one thing when we go away from them. Or "scattered" by mutual agreement and mutual consent. And then "left", it is difficult to rejoice.

When the first wave of gloomy emotions will pass, try to concentrate on the positive aspects of the event. Ironically, they are, but that they deeply feel, will, friend, make an effort. What? Well, first calm down.
Having experienced the pain of loss, many people get a great opportunity to concentrate on their studies, on career and other things for guys are very important. By the way, "bury" at school or work you are now standing still and psychotherapeutic purposes. In order to distract from what had happened, which still does not change.

Or maybe you have now will be a new hobby? Until recently, in your life was a continuous learning (work), and in his spare time - a solid "it." You now have the opportunity to look around: if there are any in the world around for something new and interesting during your whirlwind romance?

By the way, pay attention: during the novel you have not once experienced a feeling that your old and not very old friends and comrades were "outside" your reality. But you're bound to them. You owe them a lot. You miss them, sometimes you get them pulled out, but it was pulled out . Is this true?

To the novel you periodically make new friends, many of which eventually developed into affection. Began an affair - and once was these ties develop.

I'm not talking about girls. How many times have you caught yourself thinking: "Oh, how cute! And not mine ... "Now you're" free like a bird in the sky , "Be of good cheer!

But all this is a purely "practical" aspects of the situation. Think about her psychological nuances.

You affectionate? Judging by how you lamented - yes. When you were with her, you knew exactly the place and its role in this world, even if that place from time to time you thought a prison cell, and the role of frankly stupid. Prison walls crumbled, and now what?

Now, my friend, can you think deeply about themselves, about what really are your duties, your function, your desires, aspirations and life goals. Now you can - and should! - Answer yourself the question "Who am I and what I live." Not "for someone living" with it until recently, it was clear enough.

At the same time answer the questions about what you like and dislike, what you want to see your next relationship, what you expect from women and no more mistakes with them not to repeat.
In short, your forced loneliness does not just have their bright sides. It's when your creativity to it on, opens up new opportunities for introspection, and to adjust the life course and to traffic in the right direction.

Try not to revel in the sudden-found freedom. Revel and figuratively, and literally - it could spoil everything.

You better? That's good.

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