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Flirting at the bar

October 14 2011

Flirting at the bar. 19983.jpeg Flirting - a special form of negotiations that begin after not attract attention to himself. And attention is drawn consciously or unconsciously, gestures, movements, facial expressions .. - Body language. Proper use it more successfully than small talk at the bar. And, of course, this must be learned.

That's what American psychologists advise women who want to meet in places of entertainment:

1. Pay attention to himself by throwing a pair of expressive looks at him and smile. This will you give to understand that it would not be bored alone and you will not mind if he podsyadet closer and make you company.

2. The conversation can start again with a completely normal and non-intrusive "What you drink?" Or, if you understand that it is appropriate to ask how things were going.

3. In order to place the guy to talk and do not go down to the strained jokes, the conversation Take a look at some favorite you change it or feature. Candor will then be rewarded in return.

4. Try to find a thread that can tie you: common interests, work, sports ...

5. Keep a conversation about the latest news from the world of fashion, culture, music, cinema and literature. Try not to impose something of their own or seek the rule of their views in a conversation. Your goal - to learn that a man sitting next to you, to understand his attitude.

6. Did not address the complex political or religious matters, because the differences can be costly to your ensuing conversation. According to the psychologists , to convince people of anything is almost impossible. Especially, it is not required in this case.

7. Push it to take the lead - let it, in turn, showed interest and lead your conversation.

8. If the conversation begins to fade, it's time to maneuver and invent something. For example, apart from the worldly life and to steer the conversation in a different direction, telling of a pleasant event in your life or the situation played out, "How would you do if ..."

9. You should not move in a certain strictly defined direction or follow a certain scheme, which sits in the head. Otherwise, a "Procrustean bed" you destroy, and you will only think about how to sustain the plan. As a result, lose and find yourself in the eyes of the interlocutor's standard dummy.

10. Do not crush in mind and do not stop long in the endless problems. They have all - and it works against you. The evening will be ruined. The main thing - to share their pleasant experiences and enjoy fellowship with you an interesting person, and not to pour out the accumulated resentment and anger.

And the last one. Be tolerant of his shortcomings or over-confidence, otherwise the fragile bridge increases. After all, today listening companion, understand and save your relationship based on trust - a great success.

The text draws on information from the tabloid "New York Post."

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