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Flirting at the bar: 10 commandments for the first razgovora.Tolko for women

April 13 2005

Forget about the old, worn "look here often?" And variations on this theme. You can really wonderful to spend time in an intriguing conversation . And - who knows? - Maybe a conversation at the bar will be the beginning of something serious. Or exciting.

1. Pay attention to themselves, throwing a pair of expressive attitudes toward him, and smile. This will you give to understand that it would not be bored alone and will not mind if he podsyadet closer and make you company.

2. The conversation can start again with a completely ordinary and unobtrusive, "What you drinking?" Or, if you understand that it is appropriate to ask how things were going.

3. In order to locate the guy to talk and get down to the strained jokes, talking check out some you liked it a trifle or a feature. Candor in this case would be rewarded in return.

4. Try to find threads that you can bind: common interests, work, sports ...

5. Establishments talk about the latest news from the world of fashion, culture, music, cinema and literature. Try not to impose something of their own or to seek domination of his views in a conversation. Your goal - to find out what kind of person sitting next to you, to understand his attitude.

6. Did not address the complex political and religious issues, because the differences can be costly to your ensuing conversation. According to psychologists, to convince people of anything is almost impossible. Especially, it is not required in our case.

7. Push him take the lead - that he may, in turn, show interest and bring your conversation.

8. If the conversation begins to wane, it's time to maneuver and something to invent. For example, aside from the mundane life and to translate the conversation into another channel, telling about the wonderful event in your life, or playing the situation, "How would you do if ..."

9. Do not move in a certain strictly specified direction or follow a certain scheme, which sits in the head. Otherwise, this "Procrustean bed" will destroy you, and think you will be only about how to sustain the plan. As a result, lose and find yourself in the eyes of the interlocutor's standard dummy.

10. Do not push on the psyche and do not stop long to endless problems. Have them all - and it works against you. The evening will be ruined. Importantly - to share their pleasant experiences and enjoy fellowship with you an interesting person, and not to pour out the accumulated resentment and anger.

And the last. Be tolerant of its weaknesses or excessive frankness, otherwise the fragile bridge increases. After all, today the ability to listen to the interlocutor, to understand it and to keep your relationship built on trust - a great success.


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